INSIDE SECRET OF APPRECIATION

Okay so what do you think, appreciating little things and giving feedback makes a difference in our or other's life?

Do answer yourself first and then continue reading my thoughts on it :)

We are so often caught up in our journey to the destination that we forget to appreciate the journey, especially the goodness of people we meet on the way. Appreciating is a wonderful feeling. Don’t overlook it.

In our day to day life we all do forget to appreciate our close ones or anyone who has done anything which needs to be appreciated, we generally think it doesn’t matter. But it does matter a lot for each one of us and we feel this only when we do something and don't get appreciated, the cycle goes on . I have observed this for a long time and even I have done this until one day came when I fully understood that this needs to be changed. Just like me everyone is a human and also according to psychological theory given by Abraham Maslow’s - Hierarchy of needs, He also says that this is the basic need for every human just like food and water. Also, everyone reading this if you do appreciate yourself and the little things of everyone around you as I see many of us putting appreciation posts for our loved ones or expressing it in different ways which make me very happy. I am already proud of you, virtual hugs :)

APPRECIATION IS WONDERFUL AND TO REALIZE IT’S IMPORTANCE START BY APPRECIATING YOURSELF.

To understand the process of appreciation in a more simple way let’s talk about these 8 letters talked in different studies- HARPS-GLI

1. HAVE-FOCUS - focusing on what one has and valuing it.

2. AWE - feeling awe in response to nature, beauty, or life itself.

3. Ritual - engaging in rituals to foster appreciation.

4. PRESENT MOMENT- engaging in mindful awareness of the present moment.

5. SELF/SOCIAL COMAPRISON – Positive feelings arising from appreciation that life was/could be worse

6. GRATITUDE- feeling gratitude to others for help or benefits.

7. LOSS/ ADVERSITY- using experiences of loss/adversity to foster appreciation.

8. INTERPERSONAL - noticing and valuing the contribution that relationships make to one’s life and wellbeing, and expressing it.

5 WAYS WHICH I OPTED TO BRING THE CHANGE IN MYSELF AND TO UNDERSTAND THE IMPORTANCE OF APPRECIATION-

So I started this when I was much bummed about the direction my life was headed to and frustrated with things outside of my control.

1. BEING GRATEFUL FOR THE THINGS I HATE

I know it’s hard, but those things you hate do have some use. If I talk about my own experience in this pandemic I had a very tough time just like everyone. These days were full of downs but its all about how we want to take it as.

Just like everyone I got hopeless about everything. But then that’s not how life works and there I began doing things I hated like- drawing, making doodles, writing content (I hated all these things) and see now here I am loving to express my thoughts here, decorating my room with doodles, gifting my loved ones my love for them through doodling and trying to bring little positive change to my and your life too through all this.

Just like that, if you are grateful for the job you have, even if it is not your dream job, things will begin to change, so you enjoy your job more and job opportunities for you will suddenly appear. The more gratitude you feel, the happier you will be.

2. STARTED GRATITUDE JOURNAL

“Thank you is the bridge from where you are now to the life of your dreams. Your life will change by practicing gratitude and saying thank you.” –Rhonda Byrne

I have always read and seen people writing journals but never believed that writing journals can be helpful as earlier I hated to do all these things, but as I started writing journal every day I started observing a change in myself and my thought process.

Every day, I would write down three things that I was thankful for. Just this simple act of being mindful of the blessings of life immediately made me feel better about my day.

3. COUNTING THE BLESSINGS

Another way i opted was to count my blessings. When you’re grateful for the things you have, no matter how small they may be, you will see those things instantly increase. You will be happier when you count your blessings. The more gratitude you feel, the happier you will be.

Also, Studies have shown that people who practice gratitude have closer relationships, are more connected to family and friends and have people look at them more favorably.

4. STARTED SAYING MORE THANK YOU’S

Start telling people thank you more. Make a point of saying thanks when you might otherwise not have. Every day, find something to thank someone else for and most importantly yourself.

It will make you happier and give you a better outlook for the day. You will also find joy in making others happier as well and develop deeper relationships with those around you when you are grateful for each other.

5. WATCHING AND READING THINGS THAT MOTIVATES ME

This helped me lot as when we read and watch what we love the most it uplifts our mood more and make us more positive and stable towards doing things.

Also, last thing which I want to add on ,which I am doing from a long time which you might find little weird but helps me a lot later is I record the video of the hardest most difficult times in my life whenever I feel weak or hopeless. Just watching it makes me a bit sad because I see the pain my eyes but also I see such a brave woman who battled through frustrations to be thankful. And staying positive paid off because many blessings came my way after that rough patch.

“APPRECIATION CAN MAKE A DAY OR CHANGE A LIFE. YOUR WILLINGNESS TO PUT INTO WORDS IS ALL THAT IS NECESSARY”

Lastly, all I want to say is a key to happy life is never to live in regret. So many of us in our pursuit of success, in our pursuit of happiness, in pursuit of our goals and dreams often get so focused on where we’re headed , we forget to appreciate where we are.

That’s the power of appreciation, rather you can do it in a dramatic way or simple day to day way, when we take time and find the things we need to appreciate about the people around us and let them know it’s one of the greatest gift we can give to them and it’s a gift for us as well .

I hope it was a insightful reading for each one of you. Your appreciation and feedback do matters a lot :)

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